Anger is not a negative feeling. But, the behaviors that people display when they are angry might make things worse. Many marriage troubles come from anger issues.
People are sometimes unaware that their anger is an issue (but often others around them are). The intensity and frequency of angry outbursts might indicate the seriousness of an anger issue. When anger starts to interfere with everyday life, it becomes a problem.
If you are an angry person, you will most likely get what you want, but as a result, others will dislike you. For example, being rude to a server at a restaurant may result in a little better service. Yet, he will not offer you superior service simply because he is pleased to have you as a customer. Instead, he is just providing you with better service so that you will no longer shout or behave rudely.
This is also true in close relationships. Perhaps your family will agree with your request. Yet, this might be due to their attempts to avoid one of your outbursts rather than love. For example, your mother-in-law may agree to just asking half of the family to a family function because she knows that if she asks everyone, you would protest and threaten not to go. So she does what you ask in an attempt to avoid hearing it.
Anger may sometimes lead to problems at work. Frequently quitting jobs, being written up by your manager, or having co-workers complain about your attitude and behavior can all be symptoms of anger management issues. When people are angry, they may say things to customers or co-workers. Jealousy and resentment can also drive someone to sabotage a co-worker.
When people do not manage their anger in healthy ways, it can lead to physical health issues. Chronically angry people have greater amounts of stress hormones in their bodies, which can have long-term negative effects.
Several additional studies have found that anger issues can create respiratory problems and cause a person’s health to deteriorate faster as they age. Adolescents’ physical health might suffer as a result of anger issues.