There are many reasons couples go to therapy. Sometimes it’s to deal with something in the past, to deal with something presently going on, or to prepare for the future.
Whatever reason you and your spouse have to go to therapy, just know it is a huge step in showing that you care about the relationship and your family.
Relationship
Couples often seek therapy when they experience:
1.DIFFICULTIES COMMUNICATING
Some couples just have a hard time communicating. They may have been raised in families with different communication styles, or there may be negative communication habits that have formed in their relationship, making it difficult for them to effectively communicate.
2.NOT TALKING
When communication gets tough, some couples resort to not talking. Without communication, couples can’t work through the important things they need to like parenting, budgeting, being affectionate, etc.
3.ADDICTION: DRUGS, ALCOHOL, PORN, ETC.
The use of harmful substances can interfere with a couple or family. It is often difficult for the user to admit or recognize how the use of that substance is hurting their family. That user could be a parent, both parents, and even a child. Many couples need help finding ways to strengthen their family ties and learn how to eliminate the use of substances that negatively impact their marriage or family.
4.TROUBLE WITH THE KIDS
Let’s face it, parenting is hard. Really hard. Every child is different and what works for one child may not work for another. There may even be a child, or children, in your family who are getting involved with a dangerous crowd, substance, or habits. Counseling helps parents learn ways to work with their children to improve their relationships and new parenting skills.
5.LACK OF TRUST
When someone loses your trust, it can be hard to trust them again. Even if the trust-breaking experience happened long ago, marriage counseling can help. In marriage counseling, many couples come to understand what is hurting each other and ways they can create healthy patterns to not hurt each other and gain trust back.
6.JUST NEED SOMEONE TO TALK TO
Life, in general, is difficult, and many just need someone to talk to. A therapist is well trained in listening and helping people work through their thoughts, feelings, emotions, or situations.
7.WANT TO KNOW WAYS YOU CAN IMPROVE
No one is perfect. That’s just the way it is. Everyone has something they can improve. Many couples go to marriage counseling to stop issues from getting bigger, learn good communication skills, learn how to create a fulfilling relationship, and prevent themselves from creating unhealthy patterns in their relationship.
8.BIG CHANGES ARE ABOUT TO COME
Big adjustments in the family can come with a lot of hardship. Even when they are exciting changes like starting a family, having more kids, buying a home, getting a new job, moving, or entering new stages of life. Many couples like to prepare for those big changes and know how to successfully work through them.
9.NO LONGER FEEL THAT “SPARK” OF A LOVING CONNECTION
Every couple goes through times when they feel they are growing further and further apart. Sometimes, they grow further apart than they ever have, and they wonder if their marriage will ever work out. Counseling helps couples find ways to grow closer and regain that connection that led them to marriage.
10.TRAUMA
Many people go through traumatic experiences like death, abuse, violence, car accidents, illness, natural disasters, serious injuries, and more. The trauma from those incidents, whether they happened before or during your marriage, may have significant, even unforeseen effects on your marriage and everyday coping abilities.
All couples go through difficulties in their marriage. Many issues a couple may be able to work through on their own. However, those issues can be worked through faster and more effectively with the help of therapy. The therapists at MetroMedi Relief Counseling are devoted to helping you and your spouse recognize the patterns that have been created in your relationship and how to alter those patterns to create a happier, healthier relationship.